I like to have white or ambient noise playing while I study, so I thought I’d share a list of my favourite websites in case anyone else was interested.
- Rainymood - Allows you to play rain, with suggestions of ambient music to play at the same time. Has an iOS and Android app, my personal favourite.
- Calm - A visually beautiful website. Provides moving backgrounds and an option for guided calm which allows you to immerse yourself in the music and to relax. Has a free app for iPhone. Another one of my favourites.
- Showertime - The experience of taking a shower without the water. Allows you to control features such as length of shower, size of room, water pressure, etc.
- Coffitivity - The background noise of a coffee shop. Allows you to choose between different locations such as lunchtime lounge, morning murmur etc. Has an app for iOS and Android as well as a desktop app for OS X.
- Soundrown - A website with a sleek minimalist design, allows you to choose between rain, coffee shop, ocean, fire, bird noises, or a combination of the five.
- Relaxing Snow - Visually beautiful falling snow, the website gives you the opinion to play music with the scenery, or to choose your own.
- Raining.Fm - This website gives you the ability to adjust the rain to exactly how you’d like it, with options to tweak thunder, rain and storm noises. Has an app for iOS and Android, as well as a timer and snooze option.
- Rain For Me - Simple rain effects with the option to download the audio files for offline listening.
- Snowy Mood - Inspired by Rainy Mood, this website really makes you feel like it’s winter. Perfect for playing while snuggled up in a warm bed.
- Rainy Cafe - Combines the sounds of a bustling cafe setting with the sounds of drizzling rain. Allows you to select the volume of each setting, or turn one off completely.
your life is worth living even if you’re “not doing anything”
your life is worth living even if you are “letting life pass you by”
your life is worth living even if you stay in bed all day every day watching netflix
you don’t have to be big, beloved, important, beautiful, wealthy or famous
there is dignity in just being
it is ok to be
you merely have to be
In regards to self-diagnosis:
"You deserve help from a professional who is trained to treat you!" Agreed. "Mental illness is just as serious as any other illness and should be treated as such." Agreed. I agree with these statements, and I will say right now you all deserve the best treatment. For some people, the best treatment does not involve professionals.
Psychiatrists, therapists, etc. are not safe for everyone. While fighting against ableism and the fair treatment of mentally ill people, we must also be intersectional and remember the psych field’s unique treatment of women, POC, trans people, and other minorities. POC are misdiagnosed or undiagnosed all the time due to racism. A trans person with BPD may be denied hormones if they are diagnosed with it by a professional.
"WebMD doesn’t replace years of medical training!" True. Google isn’t a great alternative, but sometimes it is a better alternative, considering how the psych field treats certain identities. Being forcibly institutionalized, being mis/underdiagnosed: these are things which minorities experience in great frequency. Even on this blog, I have had many people come to me saying they have been misdiagnosed by professionals. It doesn’t surprise me.
The psych field is pretty fucking misogynist. Women especially experience a high rate of psychiatric abuse and neglect. Women are frequently diagnosed with mental illness when they display high levels of emotion, or they are not diagnosed with mental and physical illnesses they do have them because doctors tend not to believe women about being in pain out of claim their symptoms are due to ~*hysteria*~. Women, right?
The psych field is especially transphobic. (Just check the DSM.) Self diagnosis AND self-medication is the only way most trans people have access to medical transition at all, due to the medical field not caring about their comfort or their safety. Trans people suffer a high rate of mental illness too, and then their symptoms may be attributed to simply being trans rather than being taken seriously. Alternatively, like I mentioned earlier, some trans people can be diagnosed with a mental illness, and if they later come out as trans, their transness will be labeled as a symptom of that mental illness, and transitioning can become even more difficult for them.
Self-diagnosis is not trying to replace medical experts, of course. It is simply an alternative for some of us to avoid being fucked over by doctors. Because, surprise, doctors are not perfect and are still capable of being oppressive, and the fact they are doctors in positions of power makes them even MORE oppressive and much more powerful than the average person.
I understand the arguments of being anti self-diagnosis, but next time you take that stance, consider just who you’re hurting.
have you eaten today?
did you take any meds you need?
how about hydration?
maybe a nap if you need one
you are awesome
keep it up
what a beautiful day to not be in high school
just a reminder that “productive member of society” is an inherently ableist, classist, racist concept and has nothing to with your value as a person.
A summary of the issues related to identifying autism in women and girls, based on research carried out by Dr Judith Gould and Dr Jacqui Ashton Smith.
I thought I would share this resource, since it was definitely the thing that cemented the idea that I had autism for me. It’s basically a list of ways in which girls can present syptoms differently than boys.
I mean, I saw these and was like:
- Girls are more able to follow social actions by delayed imitation because they observe other children and copy them, perhaps masking the symptoms of Asperger syndrome (Attwood, 2007).
Yep, I do that. Badly, but I still do it.
- Girls are often more aware of and feel a need to interact socially. They are involved in social play, but are often led by their peers rather than initiating social contact. Girls are more socially inclined and many have one special friend.
Yup. I rarely had more than one good friend at a time at school and I still struggle with being the one to suggest going out and doing things.
- In our society, girls are expected to be social in their communication. Girls on the spectrum do not ‘do social chit chat’ or make ‘meaningless’ comments in order to facilitate social communication. The idea of a social hierarchy and how one communicates with people of different status can be problematic and get girls into trouble with teachers.
Not usually trouble so much as realising too late that what I said was probably inappropriate. Like repeating details about my friend’s sex life… So, yeah…
- Evidence suggests that girls have better imagination and more pretend play (Knickmeyer et al, 2008). Many have a very rich and elaborate fantasy world with imaginary friends. Girls escape into fiction, and some live in another world with, for example, fairies and witches.
Well, more like Jedi and space monsters, but same difference, right?
- The interests of girls in the spectrum are very often similar to those of other girls – animals, horses, classical literature – and therefore are not seen as unusual. It is not the special interests that differentiate them from their peers but it is the quality and intensity of these interests. Many obsessively watch soap operas and have an intense interest in celebrities.
Okay, well, this is a little less cut and dry because I have both female-coded and male-coded interests. I had a notebook filled with alternating dress designs and sketches of comic book characters.
Anyway, enough blabbing from me. Just thought I’d share.
Someone was asking me for this kind of resource, I haven’t got the chance to answer the ask yet, but hopefully they’re reading this.