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What does it even mean when people say “Get psychiatric help” to someone, or “They should get psychiatric help” about someone else?
I mean when (and if) it’s not just a snotty statement meant to dismiss someone and their…
i made this for myself (asked help from facebook friends) but i think maybe it will help someone else too
We love love love plant remedies and especially herbal teas, since they are often possible to grow on the windowsill and/or to forage and dry yourself (so, little to no-cost) and easy to prepare, have a variety of flavours and often help immediately, some help just by smelling them! This is why we also made a scent bag. We used a cotton teabag and just put stuff in that we like to smell/calms us down. Preparing tea for ourselves can also be a self-care ritual. Plus we’re often cold so the warm mug feels good :)
Every plant (or part of a plant) you could use for tea is different and they almost always have a wide array of uses, almost always benefitting both physical and emotional health!
Every plant can have a different effect on different people or the same person in different circumstances.
Teas from fresh plants can be very different than from the same plant but dried!
And of course you can either use just one plant or mix as many as you like, whatever smells right to you :)
You can learn what helps you most through trial and error (always use about one teaspoon of plant and add a cup of boiling water, let steep for 5-10 mins or to taste, unless specified otherwise).
Some plants we especially like and want to share about (main characteristic/application in italics):
- Angelica root – good for everything! This is one of the most powerful healing plants ever. Makes you less susceptible to infections and to emotional attacks. Strengthening, grounding, calming, relaxing, warming, makes you believe in yourself and in recovery. Helped us feel rooted, but is also said to bring people in contact with “higher powers”/spirituality or uplift them, make them sit more upright etc. When we first drank it, we felt extremely calm, secure and relaxed just being ourselves. Can also use leaves and flowers.
- crushed juniper berrys – soothe anxiety and fear, soothe existantial angst, calming, grounding, give a feeling of safety and “You are OK the way you are”, boost confidence and self-reliance, “Don’t give a shit about what ignorant people say”, helps you feel rooted, helps with dissociation. (Also tastes wonderfully of coniferous forest!) You can also chew them. You probably won’t be able to find these wild (in germany, they’re protected), but you can buy them as spice or find them in gardens.
- Mugwort leaves/shoot apex with flowers – also a very famous and old medical plant, that grows almost all over the world iirc. We found that tea from fresh leaves encouraged flashbacks, but tea from dried leaves makes us feel cared for and safe and encourages self-care and self-love. Grounding, makes us feel rooted, connected to ourselves and nature/wilderness, helps us concentrate on essentials and not worry unessecarily. Strengthens, boosts self-confidence and warms and drives out what makes you sick (physically and emotionally). Helps with appetite loss.
- Daisies – You can actually eat all of the plant, it is very good in salads! Use fresh flowers for tea if possible (dried are also OK but not as powerful). This flower is especially good for people with a history of sexual abuse and/or childhood abuse or any kind of trauma. It is associated with innocence, even naivety, childhood, lightheartedness, positivity, self-care, self-love, knowing one’s own boundaries, simplicity, honesty, pureness, safety, unselfconsciousness. It will not overwhelm you, it is gentle, light, yet firmly rooted. It makes us feel comforted. Just looking at it/a picture brings up all these positive associations.
- Goldenrod – (there are several different kinds, try which works best for you) Encouragement, security, feeling cared for, helps relax and letting go of stuff. Most of all a good plant for relationships: Finding/defining boundaries, allowing closeness, feeling cared for, accepting what others give you, being able to feel it, let it reach you. When we first drank it, we felt as though someone was giving us something we’d missed all our lives! We also felt accepted, protected, cared for and comforted. Is said to help with ending relationships if necessary, too.
- Oat grass – (you can also eat oats for similar effects!) Soothing, calming, warming, strengthening, stabilising, helps with exhaustion and overexhertion, insomnia, fatigue and burnout, helps find balance, “de-stresses”. Good after and during exhausting illnessess and recoveries. Good for finding/keeping routine and when recovering from addictions and eating disorders. Too much can bring us down, though.
- Elder – this is an exception since we love hot, sweetened and slightly watered-down elderberry juice/soup (add wintery spices and Apples!) even more than the tea, which is made hot or cold from the flowers. Although both is good! Gives a sense of security/protection, support, being cared for, confidence; nurturing, warming, calming, encourages self-care, responsibility, maturity/maturing, can bring stuff to the surface and heal it that was simmering deeper down. Especially good if someone else prepares this for you, makes you feel even more cared for.
- Ginger – stops nausea (chew a bit of fresh ginger), warming, helps with appetite loss, headache (I know some of these things are physical, but they have an impact on mental health). For tea, use less than a teaspoon for a cup. Good with lemon. If you drink it cold, it’s very refreshing, if you drink it hot, it will warm you through and through.
- Yarrow (take 2 teaspoons) – tastes and feels like a more gentle variety of mugwort. Can be used similarly to chamomille (but doesn’t taste like it). Our association was: “You’ve got to go through this (recovery), but you’re not alone.” Support, security/protection, warmth, being cared for, gentleness, balance, strengthens, calms, relaxes, helps with finding decisions. Helps with appetite loss.
- Plantain, narrowleaf or broadleaf – Resilience! Nurturing (both emotionally and physically!), strengthening; Is and can make you calm, unperturbed, serene, un-hectic, anti-drama, patient, enduring; encourages the ability to trust (and to stop feeling as though you’re missing out on things).
- Lavender flowers – clarifying, cleansing, soothing, calming, serene, stabilising, helps to be at peace with yourself, helps us avoid flashbacks, letting go of stuff (this could be inner baggage, but also relationships you don’t need anymore, or people/things you lost). Helps with anxiety, exhaustion, headaches, migraine, dizzyness, nausea, insomnia. Very good as good-night tea or part of a good-night tea blend (with melissa, hops, passion flower, valerian root) and/or scent bag. You can also use everything else that’s lavender, soap, bubble bath, fragrance lamp…
And those are
onlymostly the mental/emotional benefits of these few plants… They also have a lot of physical health benefits!
If you want to try any of these plants for yourself, see this only as a starting point – you may have to do more research to find out if or how you can use a plant safely as there may be counter-indications. In any case, don’t use a plant or continue to use it if you don’t have a good feeling about it (anymore) or it makes you feel worse! Listen to your body and soul as best you can.
Keep in mind that we’re in germany, if you find these plants in other places, they may be different (a different subspecies, or different plant going by the same name)! Some won’t be found everywhere, and you’ll have other local plants.
Also always be responsible and safe when foraging for wild plants. <3
Sometimes I see people who are anti-self diagnosis put “authority of your own mind” in quotes as if it’s this abstract and not really relevant excuse we’re using. And maybe to them it’s abstract because they’re not aware of the ways it affects people.
When people don’t consider you the authority of your own mind, it results in:
-Receiving treatment that is lethal because nobody listened to you or noticed the signs (being prescribed medication that, when given to people with X condition, can cause death, for instance)
-Being denied treatment you desperately need because people are ignoring your self-reporting, and having a condition progress to a point where it affects you permanently, or kills you
-Being institutionalized or otherwise locked up against your will, and all that entails
-People basing all their legal decisions about you on whether or not you have a piece of paper to prove you need help. If you don’t have that paper, you can’t access the only medical insurance you can afford, you can’t access Adult Protective Services if you’re a disabled person living with an abuser, you can’t access accommodations in college settings, you can’t access transportation services for people like you, you can’t get government help of any kind, you end up homeless because no one believes you can’t work.
-Being treated like your body and brain are the sole province of doctors, like you cannot possibly exist outside of an institution, people being suspicious if they see you without “handlers” of any kind.
-People being unwilling to listen to you. Scientists and doctors basing all of their studies about neurodivergent people more on their own biased and ableist interpretations of our behavior instead of our self-reporting. Which is how you end up with ideas like “autistic people are incapable of love,” which is dehumanizing in the extreme and makes society a dangerous place for autistic people to live in.
This is why it’s important to be seen as the first authorities of ourselves, and not medical property. This is why anti-self diagnosis affects professionally diagnosed people, too.
This. Also autonomy. It’s my life, my mind, my pain when things go wrong, my joy when things go right, it has to be my choice.
emotional abuse is so difficult to deal with because there’s so much doubt involved, there’s nothing concrete and physical like bruises or smacked skin, it’s subtle and you wonder if you’re just too sensitive or you have a victim complex. in fact you feel bad about even calling it abuse because it feels like you’re trivializing people who have been abused for ‘real’ because emotional abuse doesn’t involve an abuser killing you or harming you physically, it just drives you to do that dirty work to yourself. then you blame yourself for the measures someone else drove you to and that’s just so awful
Warning for Trans Youth in Southern Ontario
Avoid Dr. Kenneth Zucker of the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH) in Toronto. He will not help you in any way and upon asking many invasive, disrespectful, and irrelevant questions, he will suggest you undergo “reparative therapy” to “fix” you (pictured above). When he finishes writing his “report”, which can take months, he will refer to you in an extremely dehumanizing manner that makes you out to be some kind of oddity (eg “He seems very interested in having breasts.”) and he will not respect your gender or use the correct pronouns whatsoever. Not only that, but when he requests your report cards and school pictures (???) he will really take his time in giving them back when you ask him to. Good luck contacting him outside of an appointment, too, as he very rarely, if ever, responds to emails or phone calls. He has stated he considers trans women a “bad outcome of gay men.” Don’t waste your time with this transphobic piece of shit.
wow no fucking kidding
what a piece of garbage
this warning should be for all of ontario.
CAMH is literally the only place in ON that you can go to if you want medical intervention beyond hormones (like any and all surgeries have to go through CAMH).
the place is horrible.